What do you really think about who you are? When you wake up in the morning and look in the mirror, what are your first thoughts? When you go throughout the day, what are the familiar phrases you tell yourself over and over again?
Most of us would agree that we are not very kind to ourselves. This starts at a young age. Thanks to the popular media, we are bombarded by images and ideas of what we need to be…what we should be. Think about just standing at the checkout stand in the grocery store. All you want to do is buy your food and go home, but as you stand and wait, you are surrounded by messages about what you should be! What your love life should be like, what your body should look like, what you should be cooking for dinner, and what your kitchen should look like while doing all of these ‘should be’ things. It’s enough to make anyone feel like a failure! Most of us know, that all of these images and messages are staged and airbrushed to look a certain way…to look absolutely perfect. They add things in and take things out to make it look like the perfect lie! Yet we find ourselves chasing after these lies that are unattainable, and when we don’t and can’t meet these expectations, we begin to speak that negative dialogue. This is a vicious cycle that needs to end!
I have recently moved to Australia. My children have started a new life, a new school, they’re learning a new culture. This transition has been difficult. My young son came home from school and was struggling. I took him out to the backyard, and we sat on the dock, and I did what any parent would do. I began to list all of his strengths, all of his amazing talents, all of the goods things in his life, and everything I love about him. I gave him the pep talk of his life!
Think about how we speak to those we love. When it comes to others, we are kind. We know how to give unconditional love and acceptance so freely to those around us, despite their weaknesses and imperfections. We can see past all that! We see them for who they really are. Yet we struggle to give that love and acceptance to ourselves. I would never allow my son or anyone I love to speak or believe anything negative about who they are. I always say to my children, “Never let someone else tell you who you really are!” Yet, what are we telling ourselves every day about who we are?
What if for the month of February, in honor of Valentines Day, you gave yourself the gift of love and acceptance? Loving who you are right now…right at this very moment. Of course there is always room for growth and change, but first start at the beginning. Begin to love yourself for who you are today. Shake off all those heavy expectations and give yourself the gift of acceptance…imperfections and all! For once in your life be really honest with yourself! Tell yourself the truth about how beautiful you are, what you love about your body and the way you look right now. List all of your talents, all of the things you are really good at, and what you are capable of! Remind yourself how strong you are, how kind you are, how you reach out to help others, how you are a good listener, how you are a great mother, father, brother, sister, grandparent…how you are a good friend. List can go on an on!
I don’t recommend standing on the bathroom counter to do this though…someone might get hurt! But what if every day we looked in the mirror and reminded ourselves like Jessica, what is right, what is good…what is absolutely perfect! What if our daily conversation was, “This is what I love about me and I can do anything!”
This might be uncomfortable at first. You might struggle with this new dialogue as you look in the mirror. It might feel foreign to you to say so many positive things about yourself and your life. Does this not prove the point that we all need to love ourselves a little bit more? And remember…with anything that is done over and over again…it will become a habit, a way of life and a new way of thinking. What a powerful change this would create in your life and the lives of those around you.
Join the movement and LOVE yourself for who you REALLY are!
Blog Contributor and Chef– Tamara Mcfadden
On the show, we discuss fitness, nutrition, and how to find a work life balance for the working professional. We interview other influencers and wellness pros that share powerful motivation and inspiration so you can hustle and achieve your goals! But most importantly we keep things real and we'll make you laugh so you can stay sane in the process.